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Loving service (freedom) or bartering via service (bondage)?

Loving service (freedom) or bartering via service (bondage)?

What the video here: https://youtu.be/JEnXOh4E_lE

here’s the notes for the video:

For many years I in bondage and called in service, but it wasn’t love, it was bartering service for acceptance and self-worth. In my occupation in church, in relationships and in romance, I had to ‘save’ to be worthy of their ‘love’.

Here’s some thoughts on this.

  1. Am I engaging in loving service?
    1. If so, pay attention of what you require back. Are you bartering or truly giving?
  2. Or am I hoping for a relationship?
    1. If so, pay attention of the two sides of participation that a true interpersonal relationship requires.

 

Bartering service

  1. Drawn to suffering to Save, needing a particular outcome.
    • They love me back
    • They accept my religion/beliefs/culture
  2. From a place of lack.
    • I think the other helps complete me. I need them.
  3. Makes you special/better/worthy of love.
  4. from separation. See sickness and lack.
  5. from need

 

Loving Service

  1. Drawn to suffering as a natural impulse without specific outcome.
    • They need not love me back, stay with me, or even like me.
    • They need not agree with my views of life, politics, the universe, god, etc.
  2. From abundance.
    • I am complete. I do not need the other…
    • At the deepest level I am aware there is no other, only One.
  3. Feel you are just taking care of own body, like putting a bandage on your hurt little finger.
  4. From unity. See wholeness and wealth.
  5. From abundance.
  6. Baba quote:
    • Service without love is deplorable
    • Service with love is acceptable
    • Love without service is divine (Sathya Sai Baba)

 

Basic Whole Relationship

I find out what you want/value and support you in getting it, and am happy at your success/progression.

You find out what I want/value, and support me in getting it, and am happy at my progression/success.

With the intentional support from both parties, it doesn’t require sexual interaction or physical proximity to work, even though that is a most lovely part.

With sex and physical proximity and not these basics, it’s not a whole relationship, it’s a bartering of felt needs between the relational parties, and satisfaction is lost.

 

 

Jevon Perra

Jevon Perra: Spirit seeker, Light worker, healer, human behavior teacher, speaker, pastor, coach.

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