Emotions: Great indicators. Horrible masters.

“I am angry.” “I am sad.” “I am depressed”. “I am so frustrated I’m gonna punch you in the nose!” Et cetera.
Here is a word to the wise. Emotions are not you. You have emotions. It’s true you may feel the emotion of angry, or sad, or depressed, but it is not who you are.

Here is a bit of brain science for any of you wanna-be science geeks like me. Our 5 senses bring in about a million bits of information a second. But you can only handle about 7 bits, or “chunks” (grouped bits of info) at a time. So what does your brain do? It just deletes everything but those 7 bits. This means that you are deleting 99.99993% of all information available to you before you even consider what it is!

How does your brain know what to delete and what to keep? Your brain has filters that are preset up. These filters are like bouncers at a club. If you are on the list you can get in. If you aren’t, you get left outside. The list is your past experiences of what is important and what worthy of considering. Basically, what you have accepted as true in the past, your brain is programed its filters to find only information to substantiate its belief.

Imagine with me if you had a million words to choose from, but you could only choose 7, would you be able to find the words to clearly say any meaning you wanted to from that amount of possibilities? Of course you would! That is what is happening in your life right now.

Maybe you’ve noticed this? Have you noticed that you seem to always get in the same circumstances, get treated the same way, get into the same trouble, same problems, same kind of friends, same relationships, same … you get the point. This is not happening to you. You are unconsciously designing your life to repeat! Yikes, right?

The point of this interesting fact is that your greatest opportunity that you have is not “out there”, but right in front of you. It’s in the people that you already know, but have only thought of them in one static limiting way. It’s in the opportunity that you are already in. Up till now have only thought of in a limiting, one possibility kind of way. It’s in the kind of person that you think you are right now. I have news for you. You are who ever you say you are. Start saying different things about yourself.

Emotions are indicators of what you are thinking about. Bill Harris, creator of Holosync said, “All, yes all bad feelings come from thinking about what you do not want.” Period. If you have a feeling the you would consider bad, it is because you are thinking about something that you do not want. If your thoughts are on that thing that you do not want, it is directing your focus. If you have a million pieces of data or proof available (bits of info from your five senses) at all times you will always, always, ALWAYS be able to find some data to prove that you are right about the way you feel.

Emotions are great indicators. They reveal what you are focusing on. Emotions are horrible masters. That is because your emotions change as fast as your focus does. For some of us this can be often. If you get clear on your goals and make a plan and implement your plan when you “feel like” it, then good luck. You will need it. With out a rich uncle you are gonna be broke! … Just sayin…

So fire your emotions as your master. They are not intended for that. Pay attention to them. When you are feeling good it is because you are focusing on what matters most to you. When you are feeling bad you are focused on what you don’t want, what will go wrong and what you afraid of. So STOP IT, and refocus on what matters most to you.

If you remind yourself hourly for the next 7 days to do this simple question, “Am I focusing on what I want, or don’t want?” or when you your feeling bad, zero in on what you don’t want that you are focusing on and decide “How can I go towards what I do want”, I promise you, life will literally transform before your eyes.

Jevon Perra

Since 1995 Jevon Perra has been helping individuals and organizations get results as a human behavior teacher, speaker, pastor and performance coach. Jevon is a professional at getting individuals and organizations to the results they want. He has extensive experience in leadership development, sales coaching and personal coaching. Jevon has worked with businesses from start-ups to established corporations. Education and Background • Center for Advanced Coaching: Advanced Coaching Master Certification • Fierce Conversations Trainer Certification • Alpha Assessment Certification • Art of Negotiation Certification • Negotiation Lab Certification • CROI Coaching Academy Coach Certification • Minus Zero Fierce Coaching Certification • 16 years of speaking, teaching and coaching • Top Producing Salesman in Real Estate and B2B Sales • CA Broker’s License • Missouri Southern State University • Calvary Chapel School of Ministry

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