- Stay in abusive or draining relationships solely because we believe we can’t do better and would hate to be alone.
- Continue to do what you have always done, even though you just barely tolerate what you do. The fear of facing the unknown and going for what you really want is far more painful then the life you tolerate.
- Begrudgingly staying in a role that limits who you want to be, because of your fear of rejection or disappointing a loved one. (This is common with parents, spouses or anyone who has known your past, and for the sake of keeping their own role in tact, they try to keep you where you have been.)
As humans we have two primary decision making filters. One is primary of the other. We make decisions to:
- Move away from what we don’t want (fear, scarcity)
- Move toward what we do want (abundance).
Most people tend to do make most decisions based on the first. Again, the problem of this fearful way of keeping your life together, is that you end up becoming a person that ends up messing up even good decisions!
There is a better way to live. Put your energy into what you do want, in your goals, in your dreams. Keep your focus there and watch how your life and opportunity opens up for you. I have a simple way to keep your focus on what you want, instead of what you don’t want. Before acting, carefully consider your response to both of these two questions.
- What would I do right now if I wasn’t afraid?
- Is this action moving towards my goals?
If the answer is moving towards your goal, do it!
This of course presupposes you have clear goals. You do have clear goals right? Right!??